Bridges of Madison County, Canadian Author, Cheating, HEA, Hope Floats, NY152, Relationships, Romance, Romance Novels, ShopGirl, Sleepless in Seattle, Sweet Home Alabama, Tessa Ryan, The Notebook, Trust
Think about romantic comedies.
Sleepless in Seattle; While You Were Sleeping; Bridges of Madison County.
And probably the worst offender, You’ve Got Mail.
Ah, the rom-com. The struggle. The meeting or reuniting. Then something else keeps them apart. Then they reunite – eventually, in the case of Bridges of Madison County.
But most rom-coms are based on lies. Cheating and deceiving. Some argue it’s romantic lying. The “I was going to tell you I cheated, but I never had the chance.” Oh, be still my dead heart.
Yes, we all need romance in our lives. And romance novels are based on the “let’s make your life hell, but give you a HEA” concept.” Because – minus the cheating, deceiving and lying – we’re suckers for the French Kiss. The Hope Floats. The Sweet freakin’ Home Alabama. But what happened to love-love. Not cloak and dagger love?
The concept of Sleepless in Seattle‘s Annie and Sam meeting under “meant to be circumstances”. At the top of the Empire State Building. After she ditches her fiancé. Meh, he can fend for himself in New York on Valentine’s Day. Who she’s lied to about her trips out west. And why she’s in the broom closet. With the radio. On the phone.Minus The Notebook, the more I dissect rom-coms, the more jaded I become. Fine, The Notebook has cheating. That’s all I’m giving you. Oh yeah, and the mother hid Allie’s letters. For years and years.
Part of the issue is the rom-com-tail.
And rom-coms are far from a fairytail. When did the last rom-com – that wasn’t named after a fairytail – feature a castle with wicked step-sisters. Trust me, there isn’t a string of damsels in distress waiting for Prince Charming while living with talking mice and singing Drawfs. No one’s locked a tower or sleeping in a glass cage waiting for a kiss.
Rom-coms are a nice vacation. But when those two hours are done, the real world awaits. And it won’t change because Allie and Noah made love. Shop Girl and NY152 met. For real. Or Francesca made Robert supper. Our life doesn’t change when we pop the DVD out or exit Netflix.
But we want what Allie and Noah have. What Shop Girl and NY152 have. We want to feel loved, like Robert made Francesca feel. But without the lying, cheating or deceiving.
Is that too much to ask?
Besides, we’ll never know what happened to Annie, Sam and Jonah once the doors of the elevator closed.
Because happily ever afters are hard to come by.